Dr. Soloway is a dad of an 18-year-old daughter and a 16-year-old son and a rheumatologist in private practice at Arthritis and Rheumatology Associates in Vineland, New Jersey. He was named this year to U.S News & World Report’s “Top Doctors” list.
What was the biggest challenge you faced while your wife was pregnant, and how did you overcome it? I would have to say that coping with mood swings during my wife’s pregnancies was challenging, but I adjusted my schedule so that I would work less so I could help out more at home, which made things less stressful for both of us.
What’s the most surprising lesson that being a dad has taught you? I would have to say the most surprising thing is that my kids actually enjoy coming to work with me and want to learn what I do. It is quite humbling.
What’s are the most overrated and underrated things about fatherhood? Fatherhood isn’t overrated or underrated; it is a wonderful life experience. I have been told that as I doctor I would have no time for my children. This is not true. You still wake up and go to sleep in the same house with them, so there is time before and after the work day to keep up with them and their activities. Being self-employed, I can adjust my schedule as needed to be a part of their lives. I recommend not traveling or participating in sports, as it can really take away from family time.
Why are fathers important? In my chauvinistic traditional beliefs, my wife was fortunate to not work. I inherently would have less time to be home with the kids. My role was to lead by example, demonstrating a hard work ethic, so that my children understood my presence and what I stood for. I cherished any time off I had with them to catch up on hugs and playing. I did what I could to make sure that the children knew that my long hours at work are ultimately for their benefit and provide a better life, a better education for a better future for them.