Gary L. Marder, DO

Dr. Marder is a dad of six children—4 girls and 2 boys, ages are 26, 24, 23, 21, 18, and 16. He is the medical director of Marder Dermatology and Skin Cancer Center located in Port Saint Lucie and Okeechobee, Florida. Dr. Marder has successfully treated more than 80,000 skin cancers. He is an assistant clinical professor of dermatology and dermatologic surgery at three different medical schools, S.E.C.O.M./Nova University in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, L.E.C.O.M. in Bradenton, Florida, and Des Moines University in Des Moines, Iowa.

What was the biggest challenge you faced while your wife was pregnant, and how did you overcome it? When I was in my residency, my wife was pregnant with our first child, and my training program’s health insurance didn’t cover our pregnancy for our family. I had to find a way to protect my wife and future baby if a medical crisis occurred. Fortunately, the OB and hospital put together a plan I was able to pay for ahead of time and secure protection for my family.

What’s the most surprising lesson that being a dad has taught you? As a father of six, I had to learn the true meaning of PATIENCE and appreciation for all the wonderful blessings I have received in life.

What’s the one bit of advice about fatherhood you wish someone had given you much earlier? Actually I enjoyed the learning process of fatherhood! As long as my wife kept giving me her input, I managed to stay on the right path.

What’s the one thing about being a new dad that shouldn’t be missed? Enjoying every free minute with your kids, even the crazy times.

What’s the most overrated thing about fatherhood? It’s not overrated: To this day, I still call ALL my kids daily and love talking to each and every one of them.

What’s the most underrated thing about fatherhood? Many people don’t realize the importance of having a male presence in the house, not just for the wife to have a partner, but for the children to see a different perspective that a caring dad has regarding life, outdoor activities, and money, among other things.

Why are fathers important? I feel a dad’s presence helps anchor a child’s sense of security, as well as the wife’s, leading to healthy children both emotionally and mentally. You cannot expect a mom to play football, basketball, or baseball all the time with all her other responsibilities. Children learn from their parents, and the father’s role is crucial to relaying a male perspective.

Career, marriage, kids … how does a guy stay sane? By realizing how precious your family is … how much pleasure I derive from my children and wife supersedes any aggravation that may occur (such as when I’m gloved and in surgery and someone calls crying that they can’t find their purse or keys). I just reassure them it’s NOT the end of the world, they eventually find what they’re looking for, and life goes on … with a little chuckle!

Dr. Marder’s Q&As

How do you get your kids to wash their face?

Does a bad diet affect acne?

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