Adarsh K. Gupta, DO

Dr. Gupta is a dad of six- and one-year-old sons and an associate professor of family medicine at the University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey-School of Osteopathic Medicine in Stratford (UMDNJ-SOM). He has created two centers of excellence at UMDNJ-SOM: the Center for Information Mastery and the Center for Medical Weight Loss & Metabolic Control. He is the founder of Medsurfer.com, a free health information website for medical and healthy lifestyle information.

What was the biggest challenge you faced while your wife was pregnant, and how did you overcome it? The first pregnancy was great! During the second pregnancy, it was more of an issue with time management when she was working full-time, our older son was going to preschool, and I was busy with newer responsibilities at work. But we came out good because we were forced to learn time-management skills, and we both worked together. It was a wonderful experience.

What’s the one thing about being a new dad that shouldn’t be missed? Being there for the children and with the family as much as possible. The moments spent with the child as he is growing up are precious and will never come back.

I tried my best and still try my best to be at home before my children go to sleep and spend as much time with them as possible. When my five-year-old hugs me when I enter the house and my six-month-old giggles when he looks at me, all the tiredness goes out the window, and I get a whole new energy level.

Why are fathers important? Both the mother and father are important to the child. Both offer different perspectives to a similar situation in the family. It is important for both of them to have a new and different perspective on situations in life and decisions to be made about family. A child benefits from having a second person to turn to when one parent is not listening or understanding the situation or adapting to the changing environment. As we all know, males and females often think differently (not necessarily is one of them incorrect) regarding the same situation. Family as a whole benefits from this variety of thoughts.

Career, marriage, kids … how does a guy stay sane? I think the commitment to the family is the most important factor here. Career, marriage, and kids all together bring in a lot of changes in one’s life, and one can survive all the changes as long as the couple is committed to each other and ready to change themselves to adjust with the changed environment. The love and affection from kids makes it easier to do that.

Dr. Gupta’s Q&As

How do you lose and then maintain your weight?

How do you ease your child’s cold symptoms?

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